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June 2005

Helen FranksTalkback is a regular feature in laterlife.com run by journalist and author Helen Franks. 

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Captives of fear?

My father used to say that the country is going to the dogs. You knew, the instant there were stories in the media about young people rioting, students protesting, graffiti on the rise or any un- public-minded act, he would unfailingly repeat his mantra.

Sometimes I would argue with him: what kind of golden age was he harking back to? Things were not so great when he was young. Not only did he live through two world wars, but he was born into poverty, grew up in an immigrant family in London’s East End, lost his father at an early age. His pessimism, to me, was part of his disappointment in life, and also his fear of society changing, particularly as he grew older.

I would then go on to cite my own youth with its threat of the hydrogen bomb, its hypocrisy about birth control, cohabiting and abortion; its blatant sexism. I remembered that when I was a rather junior staff member on women’s magazines, a photo of Marilyn Monroe was retouched so as to reveal less of her cleavage. I recalled subediting a feature on breast lumps and being told not to mention the word ‘cancer’. Once, as a journalist, I observed a session at a clinic for sexually transmitted diseases. The doctor, after examining a young girl who came in complaining of abdominal cramps and bleeding, said to me, ‘knitting needles’ – a do-it-yourself attempt at abortion. No, that didn’t get into the magazine feature when I wrote it up.

So much for those good old days.

But now I wonder sometimes if my father was right. Are we going through some kind of moral decline? Binge drinking is up. Road rage is a new phenomenon. Casual violence is reported daily. People are more impatient, less polite than they used to be.

That, at any rate, is the public perception.

But then I begin to wonder, am I, too, a captive of fear? I think of those accounts in Dickens of inner city depravity, of Hogarth’s engravings of gin drinkers. Weren’t they binge drinkers of the nineteenth century variety? I think of my own experiences of censorship – as above - in women’s magazines in the fifties and sixties. Media cover-up rather than coverage.

Today, there’s not much cover up (literally as well as metaphorically). We are bombarded in the media with visions of a scantily-dressed young female generation as well as crimes of violence or public disorder. Less hypocrisy then, but more sensationalism. You could argue that the high reporting of anti-social behaviour is a reflection of our intolerance of such crimes, not merely a way to satisfy a voyeuristic readership and to sell papers.

Mervyn Kohler, Head of Public Affairs at Help the Aged recently said, "No matter if crime is rising or falling, media and politicians alike unwittingly heighten older people's fear of crime by hyping its scale or playing the blame game. Fear of crime strips away older people's confidence to live independent and active lives, and it is the duty of all politicians and public commentators to discuss the issue sensibly and responsibly.”

It’s worth remembering that older people are at much lower risk from crime than younger people, though older victims are disproportionately used in the media to illustrate the perceived breakdown in law and order, presumably for the shock-horror effect.

But maybe the times are changing, or we have got it all wrong. A recent survey for Channel 4 compared current 15-24 year olds to those interviewed in a study ten years ago, in 1995, asking the same questions to 1000 young adults. Today’s young people think that life is more than clubbing and binge drinking. In 1995, 39% of young people said they often went out intending to get drunk. The figure today is 30%. In 1995, 40% said they never wanted to get tied down with lots of responsibility. The figure in 2005 is 21%.

It’s not all rosy. There is still a minority that wants to make trouble, and that’s the section we hear about. But there has always been a younger generation prepared to shock an older one in whatever way it can.

We need strong responses to counteract anti-social behaviour. Fear, however, isn’t one of them.



 

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