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Retirement and Relationships

Retirement is a time when we have more time to spend with those we like and love - our friends and relations. Therefore, our relationships with these people are very important. People feel that retirement is an opportunity to spend more time with their partner, help with elderly parents and grandchildren, see more of their friends and catch up with all those people whom they have neglected while they have been working.

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With more time to spend with and on people and more opportunity to help them, all our relationships should improve. People will appreciate the time we can spend with them and we'll be able to relax and enjoy their company because we don't have to worry about work. That's the theory! For many people, of course, that's also the reality but, unfortunately, it's not true for many people. Relationships can be fractured when we have the opportunity of spending too much time with people and, instead of turning out to be a time of joyful relationships, retirement can sometimes become a time of discord.

We should remember that retirement is not just a big change for the person retiring, it's a big change for everyone associated with that person. With our partner, if we have one, we can now spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year with them (assuming that they have also retired, of course). With relations whom we don't live with and with our friends, we can now spend much more time with them. It doesn't mean that we have to spend all this time with our partner and other people but the opportunity is there; therefore, our relationships will be different.

Families And How To Survive Them (Cedar Books)We are always told that we have to work at relationships. What people mean when they say that is that we should talk to people and discuss our mutual relationship so that we can understand what it is our partner (or relation or friend) wants and how they would like the relationship to function. If our relationship is going to be different, we need to talk about it more in order to come to a mutual understanding of how we would like this new relationship to work. Unfortunately, we're not very good at talking about relationships - particularly men, for whom the thought of having to sit down and discuss relationships is similar to having to undergo root canal treatment without the anaesthetic! Unfortunately, many of us will need to do so, so we should shed our reluctance and work at our relationships so that we can have a wonderful retirement, sharing it with all our friends and relations.

We must ensure that we don't take our relationships for granted. Many of us do just that and wonder why our relationships sometimes falter. So read the other pages of this Guide by clicking on the links in the box above and think about how you can ensure that your relationships in retirement are happy and positive.

This Guide is written by Retirement Specialist Dave Sinclair supported by members of the LaterLife team. As well as writing on retirement matters Dave is Training Director at LaterLife and responsible for the content and continuous improvement of LaterLife's Retirement Courses.

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